You don't have to like your family/caretakers/extended family, love them just like you love every other human beings on this planet, practice unconditional and universal love, don't wish anyone bad of course, just stay yourself and polite. Don't force yourself to be "friends" because you share the same DNA.
I don't like some of my family members, it has nothing to do with judgment but it is a matter of energy and compatibility... I love them and respect them like I love and respect everyone on this planet but that's it... I don't want to talk to them, I don't want to have anything to do with them, I don't resonate with their energies, I don't support nor agree with violence, lies or dishonesty... why would I betray myself and force myself to talk to these people just because we have some DNA cells in common? Be free, my dear...
Once again, it has nothing to do with judgment, but if you feel uneasy or even sick around someone, trust that!
As a child, I used to be scared of one of my uncles but I didn't consciously realize that, I was judging myself when I was in contact with him, that was just me picking up on his judgemental behaviour because of some "established principles" he had, none of this was mine. I understood that many years after and it brought me relief because I saw that there was nothing wrong with me.
Wish everyone well, don't force yourself to associate with anyone you don't resonate with.