This is an important topic as far as relationships and personal development are concerned. We are all responsible for the words we use and for the energy that we put into these words. Becoming aware of it can avoid unpleasant situation that we don't need in our life, it contributes to expressing our truth and living authentically. Below you can find some personal development advice according to the situation you find yourself in.
When you make a promise that you can't keep:
- Sometimes, you really mean the promise you are making, it comes from good intentions. Before promising something to someone, make sure that this promise can be kept. Your promise may be sincere but you may happen to realize afterwards that it is not possible to keep it from a practical/technical or realistic point of view, or sometimes you just forget about the promise you made... And this doesn't mean you were not being genuine. In this case, it is best to inform the person you made that promise to that you are not going to be able to keep it instead of trying to cover it up with lies that are going to pile up on one another. Explaining things is always best and there is nothing to be ashamed of.
- If you are making a promise that you do know you won't be able to keep simply because you want that person's attention or approval, you are not only betraying them, you are also betraying yourself. Words are important and breaking a promise can create karma for yourself in some cases when there is an imbalance. This is not being authentic towards others and towards yourself, this doesn't serve your highest good. Be yourself, you are unique, you are enough.
When someone can't keep a promise they made to you:
It is normal to feel somewhat disappointed when someone breaks a promise they made to you. Try to not take it personally, everyone can make mistakes. If someone breaks a promise, it is their responsibility, not yours and it has nothing to do with you.
When you are being promised something, try to not have expectations. You are free to trust or not according to what your intuition tells you, try to stay in the now, don't project, take notes, wait and see what happens.
If someone breaks a promise only to harm you, here again don't take it personally, this person is only acting from their own wounds, you have nothing to worry about.
==> Whatever the case you're in, always do your best to be sincere and true to yourself. Use words in a mindful way and be aware of the things that you promise because it can impact your karma and your soul evolution. I am not saying this to scare you, there is nothing to fear, on the contrary. My message here is to promote mindfulness and insist on the fact that words and intentions are powerful. Become aware that you are a powerful human being and like I said earlier we are all responsible for our energy and the intentions behind the words we use.